
November is a busy month around the Hughes household. We have 3 birthdays, and an anniversary, plus Thanksgiving to deal with. Of those birthdays, I didn’t get to post on the 28th like I wanted to. I had posted about Rebekah’s birth and how her arrival changed our family forever. I guess as I look back on the births of each of our children, each one changed our little family to a medium size, to a large family, with all of the joy and all of the challenges that having 6 kids in this modern society will do.
Today I am reflecting on Tamra. Baby # 2. Tab had miscarried a baby between Bekah and Tamra. But as our marriage was on the mend from the trials of a young dad beginning to really grow up and begin to take on responsibility, the birth of Tamra was a blessing at a time when we needed her.
After Rebekah was born, and the miscarriage, we had decided to try birth control as an option to not have children so fast. (Bekah was conceived 2 months into our marriage). So to our surprise, Tab was pregnant again. We now were going to be a family of four.
Tamra has always followed the beat of her own drum. During Thanksgiving dinner that year (1994), Tab was feeling the beginnings of labor. I know during that weekend we took her to the hospital at least 3-4 times only to be told that she wasn’t ready to come yet. I even took my wife over to downtown Cincinnati, along some of the roughest roads that I could think of to try to help the labor along. We were young and naive. Finally on the the 28th of November we took Tab to the hospital and she was admitted.

I don’t remember as much about the labor for Tamra. We have it on video. I just remember when she came out, that beautiful black hair and big forehead! She was a doll, and still is. (She still looks like her mother.) Again I fell in love. As a young man I didn’t know how I was going to feel having another child. Would I love one more than the other? Could there be room in my heart to give to both kids equally? What I found out is, you love them all the same, and yet they are unique. There are things that differ in each child, and you have a unique relationship with each one. You love them the same……… Just different.
Tamra has grown to be fine young woman. She went from being my “pal”, always wanting to do guy stuff with dad, to an awesome musician, who I know God has gifted to give Him glory on this earth. Tab says that she looks like her, but acts like me. And I see that. She has far surpassed all of the expectations and prayers that I had for her. She is a true blessing to all of us. My only prayer is that if she is like me, I would want her to learn from my mistakes and do better in this life. So far she has. My prayer for all of my children has been that they exceed anything that Tab or I have done for the Lord, and times that by 100 or more. To be the very best for Him. To love everyone, and try to see the good in everyone.
So T-ball, Happy Belated Birthday! I am so proud of you. I love you more than you know. I am so glad that you are my daughter. 

For This I’m Thankful…………………..
